about living in belgium

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about living in belgium

Postby Angelll » Thu Feb 09, 2006 12:55 am

Hello everybody,

I would like to ask a question. I have been living in Belgium for almost one year and I think living here has good but also bad points for me.. I come from a warm city, in Perú, where people there can be very friendly to the point that it is very easy to make new friends even for a shy person (like me).
But since I am here I have noticed that people is not so open and even when they can be friendly, making new friend-relationships is not so easy.
My question is.. how do people manage to make new friends...? I don't really enjoy going to discotheks or cafes.. :(
Is there any chance for me to find friends? I mean, after all I am going to stay here the rest of my life!

Anyway, maybe somebody has had a different experience?

Groeten,

Angel
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Postby Sue » Thu Feb 09, 2006 9:09 am

Hi Angelll

I have no experience with Belgium, but I do agree that it is a lot easier to make friends in some other countries rather than NL. In the part of the country where I live there is a unseen barrier between Expats and the Dutch. There isn't much socialising between the two. Neighbours even treat my Dutch fiance different to me, they say "hello" when we are together but nothing to me when I am on my own, even when I smile sweetly and say "hello" first. But I have heard that it is a lot different in the West of the country where there is a thriving Expat community, with many groups and organisations that you can join and the Dutch do mix in a lot.

Do you take language lessons? Are there people there that you can socialise with? Are there any Expat groups in your area? I wonder if your Gemeente/town hall could give you any information. I was lucky, there is another English girl in my language class and we have each other both as friends and also as a support service.

I hope you manage to find some friends - I am sure you will. I wish I could help more, I just wanted to send a message to let you know that you aren't alone in feeling like that, it is natural in a new country. I am sure things will settle down over time.

Good Luck!

Sue :D
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Postby Angelll » Fri Feb 10, 2006 10:10 am

Hallo Sue,

Thanks for your support! I will definitly try asking in the "gemeentehuis", they must know about extra activities in my neighborhood.
And well, I do have nederlands lessons with really nice people, but unfortunately this is in Mechelen, far from where I live (Wommelgem). The traject in bus takes 2 hours. (I would take the train but it is quite expensive for me!)

Almost everybody in the class lives in Mechelen and at least now in winter it is really annoying having to face the weather when going out for taking a bus, so I understand when they don't want to do extra things after school, like to visit each other or just to go shopping.

Hihi, and why do I go so far to take the lessons? Well, because it is supposed to be a new kind of superextraintensive course and it is only given in Mechelen, and I really want to learn the language as soon as possible so I can look for a job.

I guess that once I have a job I can make more "accesible" friends.. I will keep my fingers crossed. :wink:

Thanks again for your support and "tot ziens"!

Groeten,

Angel
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Postby evilbu » Tue Oct 31, 2006 7:46 pm

Angelll wrote:Hallo Sue,

Thanks for your support! I will definitly try asking in the "gemeentehuis", they must know about extra activities in my neighborhood.
And well, I do have nederlands lessons with really nice people, but unfortunately this is in Mechelen, far from where I live (Wommelgem). The traject in bus takes 2 hours. (I would take the train but it is quite expensive for me!)

Almost everybody in the class lives in Mechelen and at least now in winter it is really annoying having to face the weather when going out for taking a bus, so I understand when they don't want to do extra things after school, like to visit each other or just to go shopping.

Hihi, and why do I go so far to take the lessons? Well, because it is supposed to be a new kind of superextraintensive course and it is only given in Mechelen, and I really want to learn the language as soon as possible so I can look for a job.

I guess that once I have a job I can make more "accesible" friends.. I will keep my fingers crossed. :wink:

Thanks again for your support and "tot ziens"!

Groeten,

Angel

You are aware that not all of Belgium speaks Dutch, only Flanders?
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